Hey SmF fam! It’s that time of the week again! So glad you’ve stopped by and hopefully brought a friend!
Well, I’ve had a pretty interesting week, busy may be a better adjective, and I have my son to thank. He’s had call back after call back and ended up booking a role on a really great project and I’m
super duper proud of my lil’ man! He absolutely loves what he does, works hard at his craft, and is grateful for every opportunity.
Me? I knew you would ask. Well, I’m still working on my book, you can kind of say I’m consumed with it at this point. I invest so much time, energy, and support into my son’s career, but I realized it was equally important for me to focus on the things that brought me fulfillment.
As for my social life, that’s basically still non-existent, especially when referring to dating. Honestly though, I reeeeally don’t mind. And the more engrossed I am in all of the things I have going on, that’s bringing me worth, the less it matters.
I mentioned in last week’s post “AuGuSt RuShEd!” that I hadn’t decided if I wanted to go through with the whole Match.com fiasco or if I was even ready to date yet. And yesterday, I was reminded why I’ve been so torn, bi-polisherish even.
I was on set with the kid and I ended up having a conversation with a mom that I hit it off with. She was married with children and had an amazing family life and support system from what I could tell.
For the most part we talked about the ups and downs of the business and I afforded her some advice that I wish I would have had starting out. And of course my relationship status came up. I wasn’t surprised, because people usually wonder why I’m not in a relationship or married or why I wear my “SiNgLeNeSs” so fabulously.
I explained the motivation behind “SiNgLe MoMmY FiLeS” to her (it was in a nutshell though) and you know what she had the nerve to say to me?
“Well you know what? I believe that God will send you exactly what you want at the right time. It’s all in His hands.”
“Yes!!!” I exclaimed from the inside. I kept my cool on the surface in front of the crew.
It wasn’t like I hadn’t heard that before in countless conversations or that I hadn’t told myself the same thing over and over. But it was something about what she said, how she said it, and the timing of it all, especially since she was a stranger and I had only known her for like five minutes (okay longer than that, but you get my point).
Not only that, it shed more light on the fact that I’m doing exactly what I’m supposed to be doing, right now! I’m supporting my son, the most important thing in the world (SiNgLe MoMmIes PuT Yo HaNdS Up!) and working on me, while trying to touch and change lives in the process.
Ladies, I’m so caught up in my purpose and responsibility to myself and TJ, that I’m not worried about a man or desiring the type of validation that most women get from just having a man, nor am I willing to put up with anyone other than thee one, just to say I have one. Can I get an Amen!?
I know what I deserve and what I’m capable of, and I don’t need a man to complete me. I’m not looking for Jabez, Jabez betta’ watch out for me and when he finds me, come correct, because I’m a phenomenal woman! I know, because I tell myself that everyday.
Yes, I’m still a work in progress. And to be completely honest, as I always am, it wasn’t too long ago that I was seriously doubting myself, my accomplishments (or lack thereof in my opinion) and what I would be bringing to the table. I worried about my hair, my weight; if I was skinny enough in certain places and thick enough in the right places, whether or not these Cali men found me attractive, and lastly, if I was too tall in a city that seems to breed and draw all kind of short men from other places.
But “honey boo-boo chile’” ♪♫ I got a new attituuuude-aahh!!! ♪♫
(shout out to my girls Cami and Carmie for the inspiration above lol!)
Ladies we gotta’ get focused! Let’s not worry so much on trying to get a man and let’s stop holding on so tight to those “WrOnG MiStErS”. And yes, I said “so much” and “so tight,” because I’m not insensitive to individual progress. Some of us will get it together real quick and others will need more time, and that’s all good.
But from this point on, let’s make a pact to each other to be even better to our children and ourselves than we have been. Make a pact to focus on You and Them! Lose yourselves in whatever your purpose, destiny, assignment, and gift is on this earth, and realize this one thing, that when the time is right, and it will be, your RiGhT MiStEr will find you!
See you all next week! Until then my friends…