Hey there! Well here I am writing my very own blog for the first time about what it’s like to walk in my shoes. If you’re here you probably already read the little bio thingy, so you know that I’m a divorcee (call me naive, but I can honestly say I didn’t see that coming) AND I’m a single mom, which I take full pride in. As you may have suspected the little one kissing my cheek down there is my baby boy TJ (he would never approve of the following), but gosh, he’s one of the most phenomenally gifted, creative, compassionate, adorable little boys on the planet. I’m probably stretching it there with “on the planet,” but it’s my blog … my world … my lens … my prerogative … And I ’am kidding about the planet part.
Anyway, I’m so glad you’re here! I really want to be as open and honest as I possibly can. I hope to build something relatable and to write things that will resonate. I want to make you laugh or cry or say “hmmm.” I would hope to challenge, inspire, encourage, and maybe even help you see things from a different perspective … and give you whatever else it is you need.
This is just as much about me as it is about you. So, I’m going to need you to talk back to me. Tweet snglemommyfiles or Facebook SiNgLe MoMmY FiLeS suggestive topics, ask questions, or give constructive criticism on content, not grammar—we’re going to relax and have fun here. Be sure to follow me on both, for updates. And please no negativity. I ignore it.
I was a little flustered before this post. I had a long day, which is the equivalent of a late night, 4 hours of sleep, an early morning rise, accompanied by my usual responsibilities’, and a lot of tedious work—that is now backed up because I was without my personal laptop and files. The culprit you ask? A virus that attacked after making an online purchase on a legitimate site … and no, it wasn’t porn or anything from an online sex shop, just so we’re clear.
I said all of that to say, I wear quite a few hats. I’m a full-time SUPER-mom (the ultimate job of the universe). I find myself cleaning noses, wiping tears, teaching responsibility, encouraging creativity and learning, cultivating gifts, discouraging bad behavior, chastening, and loving unconditionally, day in and day out. I’m a stand-in dad—when my son’s father (i.e. the ex-husband, whom you’ll read about a lot, trust me)—isn’t around, which is six days out of the week. He spends one day with his son and works the other six, so I can’t fault him for his absence, although I do take the liberty to fault him for a lot of other things … we’ll definitely talk about that later.
I’m the home school teacher (for the 4th year in a row) of an eight year old 4th grader. Yes, you read it right, and no, I don’t get to kick TJ out of the house or drop him off at school Monday-Friday, for 6-8 hrs. He’s home with me, all day, every day. Call me chef extraordinaire. I throw down in the kitchen for breakfast, lunch, & dinner (I’ll be sharing some recipes with you). I’m an unpaid live-in maid (I clean toilets right along with noses). I’m a personal shopper (of all things grocery, toiletry, household, & clothing). Last but not least, a momager (I really don’t like the title, it’s tainted), acting coach, and chauffeur for my son whom I run all over LA regularly for auditions & call-backs & set work & extracurricular activities.
I try to focus on me as a woman and my lil’ ole’ needs, when I have the time—and believe me I’ve had to wrestle the day, late night, and wee hours of the morning for some of it. It’s been an eight year battle to say the least … oh, did I mention, that a few of these years I was working on a degree while maintaining all of the above?! But, I would not have changed a thing–I absolutely LOVE being a mommy! And lucky for me, inspite of my crazy life, in 2011, I discovered something about myself that I never noticed before. I can now add writer/author to the hat rack. I took the first steps and actually penned a book entitled ’A Journey Like No Other,’ –in nine weeks–with what time I could find, which often resulted in a missed shower or two, little-to-no sleep, and no social life—not that I had one to begin with, but that’s another issue.
Parts of the book are based on my life, which has been somewhat of a turbulent ride (some airways windier than others, hence the title), but its fiction, so some of its true and some of it isn’t. I will say I had a lot of fun developing and enhancing the storyline and the people in it. I’m hoping to find an agent and publisher very, very soon. Of course I’ll keep you in the loop.
Whew! So you know a little bit more about me. I had to get this intro out the way, so you all would have an idea of what the SiNgLe MoMmY FiLeS are about (although there’s room for evolution) and to give good reasons why you should come back … you will come back won’t you?